BREAKING FREE FROM THE ZONE

I decided to write about this because it occurred to me that quite a number of people are still wallowing in the idea of making do with what they have and not daring for more, Pst. Bolaji Idowu said something’s about breaking free but I’m adding the zone to it. This is kind of like a semi cull from his message. Enjoy.

A zone is one’s environment, job, habit, believe system that makes one feel all comfortable with lack of progress unknowingly. Zones surface at every stage of one’s life, not to mar you intentionally, but to help you get better, move closer to that vision, teach you another way to get through life and its beautiful stress and make you the best.

Breaking free is leaving a comfort zone, moving on even in the face of despair, to a just graduated young man its saying no to dad’s offer and going out to fend for himself, its being strong, matured, brave enough to make the move and not look back about it. Breaking free from the zone is coming out from that place that seems to make you feel all good and being yourself, no stress, no pain, no fear, just you being cool and feeling fly.

Some women feel comfortable being career women, some feel better being house wife’s…..but only the strong can break free and be all in one, yes it not easy but confining yourself to one category when you can do more is limiting to me. A quote from award wining singer Beyonce:

“Boy you know you love it how we smart enough to make this million, strong enough to bear the children, then get back to business”.

It also apply to some men who don’t want to carry certain responsibilities but want the fun therein, students who don’t want to read but claim 5.00CGPA when pastor prays in church for student result, lazy employee’s who lay around but want promotion like they say on twitter #God is watching you. God isn’t watching you; destiny is walking away and guess what it might never come back, unless God loves you too much to help you recover loss opportunities.

I think its time you pick up from where you stopped and forge ahead, because one girl soiled your feelings doesn’t mean your wife will, because you lost one child doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try again….don’t get too comfortable being the least in class, ‘am ok where I am’, what the heck, is that where you really should be, there is one million and one reason you should get better in everything.

I challenge you to look into the future and tell yourself what you feel it will be like and if the present doesn’t depict anything near that then you have a lot to do.

Break free and get better

Yours blogger

Dela

PRE BIRTHDAY

My birthday is Sept 17 19..., but from the the beginning of the month I was anticipating what to do, where to go and whom to go with, I had this feeling that there will be alot of request from one or two persons to hang out with them (well am girl), but I wanted something more than the ordinary, I wanted the waoh factor, an outing to die for, with all this in mind I came to the conclusion that it would take a World class robbery to satisfy what my mind wanted, though its not a crime to indulge one's self, but it is a crime to do things in excess *my law*.

I wanted an all day parade over all the beautiful places in Lagos and beyond, I wanted shopping till my hands were full and that of the 10 other people behind me carrying my stuffs, I wanted  to hang out and lounge without work....but seriously this are things do normally just in minimal, shop at Yaba or wherever, lounge with the girls,  watched movies as they came out, more thanks to online movie sites, money spent on Cinemas are now minimal for me. after counting all this, I knew deep inside that this wasn't what I really wanted, I wanted more, accomplish more, dream more, see more (travel). Though all I wanted for my birthday might not have come as planned, one thing though went as planned : testimonies of people about me, though not all good, because I dont have 100% teaser's around me, gifts, seeing people laugh on my special day made me cry, the fact that I was the reason they laughed melted my heart and made me want to do more.

Ok.....enough with the inspiration, the fun part *wink*, this is how the week long before my birthday went, D-day story coming soon.

Monday: Ate out with some old pals...  I met on my way back from the office. it was quite a refreshing experience, talked about what we do now and want we still want to accomplish, reunited with ever daring but funny Shade, who want to put her life on the "net" just like me but she is too lazy, sorry I mean busy to write.

Tuesday: I took a stroll around Unilag environment, not all though, but as far as my legs and strength could take me, thought about things I wanted to accomplish, things I have accomplished and ways to accomplish my new goal.

Wednesday: nothing happened, just went straight to bed even though a friend wanted to hang out.

Thursday: yaaay.....went out by 6:30pm with a friend, had very swell time got back by 8pm took a shower and off I went again, but this time with a fellow Mass communicator and this was even "Sweller" if you know what I mean, from Bassy to Dejavu to Next then Education spot, mehn is this the good life or what...lolx.

Friday: went to a Chinese restaurant, got back by 8pm took a hot soapy bath and went to bed prepared for exams the next day. I guess u thought I was gonna go clubbing, sorry to disappoint you, I had exams the next day, so no clubbing.

Saturday: exam's over *hands in the air giggling* I went out with my babe, we had the fun of our lives dancing - Chapel of Christ our Light, University of Lagos. it was Lagos Varsity Christian Union Praise Night. so we diggeed down, in all styles for our maker for a well ended session.

Sunday: no church service in school, we (babe and I) used the day to rest and used the night to.......




Dela

ONE YEAR…..THANKS

I sat on my bed in Moremi hostel to type my write up for the week, I was almost through with my exams and I kept pondering about how the session had been and everything that had happened in the past academic year. I just couldn’t control my mind at this point; it kept saying IT HAD BEEN GOD ALL THE WAY AND NO ONE ELSE is more worthy of praise.

I don’t think this is the best thing to put up on a blog since its not entertainment or my personal opinion about an issue, but I sincerely cant stop myself from saying a very big thank you to the BEST FRIEND I could ever have. This session has been one trying one for me…different things at different times, He was so faithful to bring helper of men my way to help me at every given time, classmates like no other that I will be spending quite some years with, roommates that are just not the usual, everyone have their own uniqueness.

My heart is so grateful about how far he has brought me, the beginning looked shaky and unknown, but the end was one well deserved one. I can’t say enough about much BIG DADDY has been to me and my One and Only. Thank you for everything and anything.

To every member of University of Lagos Mass Communication Department, no matter the class or year, we did it again, we are moving forward to conquer greater ground, E29er… through all the foods burnt, the snake, the scorpion, fire, grooming of two beauty queens in the room, fights, arguments and anything else I might have forgotten, if Big Brother Africa had come to our room to televise us without showing our nakedness am sure Africa would have one good show Kim, World bank, beans cooker, Atike Iya Adisa, Landlady, Miss Big Bold and Beautiful, Miss Moremi, Kemilicous, I LOVE YOU GIRLS and I couldn’t have asked for anything better…but my arms are wide open for  better option

This is not the end of the thanks to everyone, but some people can’t be mentioned now cause they will really don't like their names being mentioned on the internet *you know yourselves*. Thank you all and God bless you all abundantly.

Let’s do it next session….but in different rooms *sobs*

Dela

QUOTE OF THE DAY

“We have political Boko Haram, religious Boko Haram, & criminal Boko Haram” – Top 8 quotes from GEJ’s

UNKNOWN FACTOR

Lillian and Kevwe had been dating for nine years, their relationship was well known to every one who knew them. Lillian is a banker (one job I personal don’t feel appropriate for single women willing to mingle or for young married couple who are raising children), Kevwe on the other hand is a consultant with a leading consulting firm in the land and was appointed the position of a manager.

This couple met at an interview they both went for, they kicked off things at a gradual process and got to know each other better, and as time went by they began to see things from a different perspective – Love. They couldn’t hide their feelings towards each other any more and had to officially start dating with Lillian initialing the relationship. Their relationship for nine years didn’t move anymore than it had been.

After nine years Lillian felt it was time to take things to the next level…but not with Kevwe, she took things to the next level with James, a colleague at the office  but higher in position than her, Lillian and James had been dating for two years and they felt it was time to get married.

KOKO:

If you’re not going to get married to a person you are in a relationship with let the person go, keeping him or her for anything less than a year plus to some people is caging and boring talk less of nine years, and why stay in a relationship that has nothing to offer after two years, if the other partner is not saying anything towards the direction of marriage initiate the discussion and get a response fast to save yourself the stress of more years.

Personally, am not against a lady initiating a relationship, but the culture of our society doesn’t appreciate such gesture from any lady at all. What was Kevwe doing all the while that he didn’t take notice of the fact that Lillian wasn’t pestering him for marriage, peradventure she was before, and James how sure is James that he knows Lillian well enough to make her his wife….for her to date another man for nine years and date him for two years without being caught, waoh she must be super secretive I guess. There too many sides to this coin that I sincerely cant understand.

Maybe Kevwe didn’t really want to marry her too, maybe they just kept mute to that fact that they cant get married and they cant let go (unofficial friends with benefit), maybe they didn’t see reasons to tell everyone that they were not going to get married.

I wish them both the time of their lives.

P.S: a friend Shade is willing to make her life a series, so watch out for Shade's Diary

Dela

BIRTHDAY

 A very Happy Birthday to blogger, presenter, entertainer, future wife and mommy.....lol

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last years bday

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 pre bday outing 2012

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Hapi birthday girl

MY WIFE JUST BORN O

This heading sounds like the speaker is telling people about his joy right?.... no his not, that up there is a cry for help by an Okada rider whom injustice was melted upon. I was on my way to computer village to get a laptop charger, the driver of the bus stopped at the Mobil filling station at Ojota Bustop to refill his tank when I heard this young Okada rider crying and saying 'my wife just born o'.

This rider was being beaten by police officers and his bike was to be taken from him, the reason for his beating I cant say, but what else will make a police man beat an Okada rider or want to take his bike.....this Okada rider held on to his Okada, like he is holding on to Jesus, with the screams and tears strolling down his cheek. A crowd of market women, men and fellow Okada riders began to gather and rain abuses on this policemen. With the look of things, it seems this crowd was not going to let this police men take this man's Okada away...but still no one stopped the policemen physically, not even the fuel attendants.

Seeing a man cry brought a feeling of pity from me, I imagined his baby, his wife, who would be expecting her husband to come back home at the close of work and bring money for feeding, I imagined the look on his wife's' face when she hears that his source of income has been taken from him, how was this man expected to cope with this harsh economy, why not just take his drivers license from him, why not issue him a ticket or something....why take his livelihood and that of his family.

As the bus was about to move out of the filling station, a fellow passenger said 'one day everyone in this country will have to start using arms....really', its almost getting to that point, with the rate of injustice in Nigeria, masses will have no choice but to take laws into their hands and save themselves since the people in authority, maybe then the revolution we all have been yearning for will ......


Yours blogger,


Jessiekonko